This post is very hard to write, even in the 21st Century.
How do you recover/overcome from a lose of a friendship of 20+ years?

 Over the course of our friendship, we grew up together, vacation together, had intimated relationships that did not last as long as our friendship.
I have lost a great friend. Someone i could and did confide in, had great fun and adventures with over the years and now this person has decided with the choices they have made everyone including their family was no longer needed only the "NEW" person in their lives would be the only source of interaction. This person at one point, stopped being a parent to their children under the age of 10 years. Those kids, have it far worse than i, trying to understand as to why their parent no longer wanted them, I as an Adult, am at a lose of understanding.
This person made a lifestyle change that effected everyone, I understand people can and will change throughout their lives but not to a point of complete removal of communication, emotions, interactions with all they knew from the time of their birth to now.
The lifestyle this person has chosen to be, does not effect my perception of them only how they chose to move on with their lives at the cost of losing everyone they have known. NO ONE has ever disown this person, when this person made their choice, this person decided to leave us.
I am not jealous, I am hurt, dismayed, in pain,no longer trusting of this person. How can someone dissolve a friendship in this manner? I have never in my adult life treated anyone in this manner, a guy, a friend, a co-worker, family member, no one!
This person never discussed the ending of our friendship, just four words to end our friendship" DO NOT CONTACT ME"
It has taken me months to write this, to speak of this, to think of this, to say it out loud, this person is no longer a friend.....
I can understand ending a friendship if was only a few months old to a year or two but 20+ years.
I catch myself wanting to call, text and email this person, go over to their place to visit or hangout. It is very hard to remove this person from your daily life.The feeling of lose could be compared to having a family member pass away........: (


WOW! Just realized this post could be read as if I was in an intimated relationship with this person but that is not the case. JUST A CLOSE FRIEND!